Sweet young kid.
Then the hormones kick in and its time for them to troop off to the world famous Chocolate Factory aka The Candy Shop aka The World of Women.
And lurking near every Chocolate Factory is an Augustus Gloop.
Remember him? The greedy m****f***** that loved the chocolate so much he fell into Willy Wonka's chocolate river.
Sometimes too much is just never enough.
In this world of skanks, skeezers and gold-digging hos, a man knows he's lucky enough to meet ONE good woman. The smart guys, get on Oprah's sofa and start bouncing around with joy as they feel they are literally the luckiest men in the world.
The daft guys just keep asking for more.
Lets take Truth's story from the top.
Guy meets girl A, they get talking, like each other, swap numbers, agree to meet again next weekend.
During the week, guy meets girl B, they like each other, swap numbers, agree to meet again the next weekend.
At this point, I don't think anybody has done anything wrong.
He meets Girl A on Saturday, they like each other, hang out, agree to meet again.
He meets Girl B on Sunday, they like each other, hang out, agree to meet again.
Its easy to see how this can keep going on for longer than planned and how it could have started without any malice or ill-intent. Its easy enough to see how in the early stages there's no real commitment. Then again, some guys are just like Augustus Gloop and will keep going until they drown in it.
So I'll tell you what I do.
Ask.
Are you seeing anyone else?
He might tell the truth, he might lie but instead of just listening, watch his reactions to see if you believe him. Then take the responsibility into your own hand s and decide what you choose to believe. Lie to yourself if it makes you happy (it never does), let your paranoid psychotic neurosis get the better of you if it pleases you.
If he says he is, ask him if he intends to continue. If he says yes, you say thank you for a lovely dinner, get up and leave.
Whatever happens, just be sure to realise you made a choice on what to believe.
Now, onto the supposed friends.
Girl 1 is the real scoundrel and Girl Number 2 got shafted.
If Girl 1 knew the guy was seeing Girl 2, why not bring it up with him or with her?
If you respect yourself, the guy or your friend, you'll say something.
If you speak to your friend and you both like the guy, first dibs yeah?
If she got there first, back off.
If its supposed to be it will be. With you, with her or far more likely, with someone else!
There are over 6 billion of us in the world.
Read carefully.
You
Will
Find
Someone
Else
Keeping a boyfriend-in-common quiet is shady. Whichever way you look at it.
And shady always finds a way to bite shady's ass.
The problem with all this unda-g nonsense that people in Lagos love so much is friends often end up shagging the same guy and everyone is busy keeping schtum about who they're with.
I remember being out at a dinner and two girls were talking about the guy they were seeing. One girl lived in Lagos, one girl lived in london and you know what? They were kinda similar looking. I asked who he was, they both said they wanted to keep things quiet. I pointed out if a guy wants to 'keep things quiet' he's probably shagging your mate.
Men like to share their love & that's a beautiful thing. Especially if they can away with it.Hey! What's wrong with friends with benefits?
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@Shadow as long as both parties are crystal clear that its a 'friends with benefits' situation as opposed to a 'friends with potential' situation, its absolutely fine. And somehow I suspect more often than not that line remains blurry...probably deliberately too!
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