Your Money or Your Heart

I heard a rather disturbing story about a guy who basically dates girls, takes money off them then dumps them and doesn’t pay back the money. He apparently does this is a very clever way because he is the type of guy that looks serious and behaves well on the surface. He doesn’t fool around or party so you think you are onto something good. So you are dating, thinking it might end in marriage and you lend him money for some business venture that he has told you all about anyway and then next minute you are no longer good enough and he cuts you loose but sans cash!
As appalled as I am about this type of scoundrel ladies (and I actually find this worse than cheating) I have to ask… what are you thinking? Never lend a man money because even if you stay together he will never thank you for it. As a matter of fact he will dislike you because you could afford to lend him the money. Men want to be in control and the mere fact that you can sort out his problems for him means that you become persona non grata.
I am a modern woman who believes that women should be able to take care of themselves and not rely on men, but please there is no need to take care of a man too. These days as women we are high earners, travel when we want and buy what we want but you know, we need to retain some of those old fashioned ways that say that a man should take care of a woman.
Trust me, I know! I have always felt I can do it myself but now I know better. I am sure we have all been burnt and it is time we came to our senses.
Let him pay. You can buy nice little gifts and take him for the occasional meal when you know each other really well but really, for the bigger stuff, let him pay. Certainly do not whip out your cheque book to help him ESPECIALLY if it is for business. I am sure a part of us enjoys that though – feeling like he owes us something – but it is not cool!
We only have ourselves to blame if we are played for fools..