If the guy is divorced, maybe he married the wrong woman. It happens more than most people care to admit.
Been together for a while and 'its the next logical step'
Didn't think anyone better would come along
Maybe he succumbed to family and/or peer pressure.
Its your job to make sure you both communicate well enough to find out what the guy is REALLY like.
Remember there's always his side of the story, her side of the story and then what really happened. So when you ask him, listen objectively to why he says it didn't work out. And no "it didn't work out" is not a viable reason to end a marriage so I'd recommend you press for a better answer that sheds some light onto what this guy was like in a marriage.
Is he a hardcore playerplayer?
Did he make her a human punchbag?
These might be hard questions to get an honest answer to but if you suspect either might be the case, ask. And then watch his reaction. Any signs of nervousness or guarded behaviour should help you see all might not be as sweet as you had hoped for.
But on the flip side, maybe he did just marry the wrong girl at the wrong time.
In which case you're the beneficiary.
And at least unlike the playboy-flying-solo for life, at least you know he's capable of going through the whole shebang.
If he's willing to take the plunge again with you, chances are he learnt a lot of key lessons the first time round about what not to do in a marriage.
And sometimes knowing what not to do can prove more valuable than knowing what to do!
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