The Mrs Club

I think the problem here is men think 'marriage' is what women want to hear. (Ok, Truth's example, that guy was just a little special, 6 times?)

Men say marriage and all of a sudden everyone's happy and smiling and not complaining about them eating the last rolo.

Why is that?

I remember as soon as I graduated, all of a sudden the 'line' became, you'd make me a perfect wife. All the guys who were trying to get their mack on, suddenly started using this as the line that was supposed to issue them with a one way ticket OUT of the friend zone. While in

reality it just got them a side-eye and swift departure from me.

And then I noticed, post-uni a lot of women weren't on the hunt for the perfect job, they were on the hunt for a husband. For some women, they seem to feel that once you get a degree, you get married and start popping out babies and that is your lot in life. For some women, they've been bullied into submission by society, aunts, uncles, parents, telling

them they need to be married by 30....this leads to massive paranoia, insecurity and generally low self esteem which is never a good place to be in. And for what seems to be a minority, they don't get what all the fuss is about.

Developing countries seem to place an even higher level of importance in women getting 'married by 30' and the guys know this.

The smart slick ricks are wise to the game that mention the word marriage, the woman in question will assume she's being taken seriously and its open sesame. Ladies, before you start repeatedly bouncing your reality checks, remember for the male slut, the ends justifies the means.

I just wish that women would stop getting all carried away with guys insinuating the thought of marriage might have flitted across their minds for a brief millisecond. Women need to realise men are lucky to have you..NOT the other way round. Ideally you're lucky to have each other but NEVER EVER let some prick make you feel like he's doing you a favour by being with you.

As he's there feeling like the dalai-friggin-lama bestowing the gift of world peace on you, just stop and think if you would actually want to spend your life with him anyway. Too many a bad marriage is born out of the two people not thinking about what their lives will be like once the aso-ebi, lace and party jollof is over. Who is this person you're supposed to be spending your life with? How well do you know him?

I remember taking great delight in pricking the over-sized ego of a guy I dated briefly a long time ago. He was there feeling like King Kong, and his friend said. "Oh, he seems to like you a lot. Play your cards right and he might ask you to marry him". 

Astounded at the combined and singular arrogance of Dumb and Dumber, I happily replied "Who said I'd have him anyway?"

Dumb's ego was deflated like a helium balloon and Dumber was rolling on the floor with laughter. Not every relationship will end in marriage, not every relationship is supposed to lead to marriage.

Especially when you're young, just enjoy being in relationship as they give you a clearer idea of what you do and don't want in your life. While clearly there was no future for me and Dumb, we're still friends, and I know he respects me a lot more as I was never that pining,

passive, permissive bridezilla in the making.

I'll leave you with this very apt Lady Nancy Astor quote.

"I married beneath me, all women do"

So stick that in his pipe and tell him to smoke it.