Thursday, February 5, 2009

I propose!

There are some guys out there who just love to propose! Have we come across them before ladies? You know the type who after a month of being with you tells you that he wants to marry you and starts making plans? What is up with these guys? Do they think it is a joke or something to be taken lightly? Ladies on this occasion - since more men propose than women - this is purely about men!

If a man tells you he wants to marry you or he actually says - will you marry me - in the heat of passion, then ladies he is kidding and it is only because at that point in time he cant even think straight. In some cases he doesnt even remember who is lying under him (or on top actually).

If after a month of dating - when the going is good - he starts making plans for marriage with you, be very weary... dont get all excited, just wait and see and always think about how you feel about the person. We all get caught up in romance or so-called love that we dont stop to think about how we feel and if we want to marry them!

If you bring it up another day and he either changes the topic, or cant recall even saying it, then know that he is not serious.

Men think that women love to hear that and feel it gives them some kind of power. Remember, if he could say so easily, he can retract just as easily!

I know of a guy who has proposed or talked marriage with about 6 women and hasnt married any. Is this normal behaviour?

8 comments:

  1. Na madness...if truth be said...

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  2. You Women don't know that for most of you marriage is the 'end of the beginning...of a beautiful relationship'. They still believe in 'happily ever after' fairy tale and scoundrels know that. Scoundrel's proposes 'nilly willy' before exposing their little willy(err sorry bad joke). Let me start again. A scoundrel proposes anyhow because he knows just how far a woman would go for him to keep that promise. Women would take almost any kind of crap including attempting the Mexican cartwheel when instead they should focus more on the personality of the idiot they are about to consider marrying. Please, please shove the crap fairy tale thoughts of marriage aside and think about whether its still cute after 10 years of marriage to see your guy slide down a banisters naked, because you are out of toilet roll.

    SHADOW

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  3. Shadow....almost my thought precisely. Check out my last post.

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  4. I propose that everything u say about marriage is true.Its the beginging of the end , but not in the developed world where there is law , order and police. Nigerian men are operating on their own level , what i dont understand is how they havent yet managed to convince the women that there really is no point in getting married at all ..! as i have actually managed to convince mine ha ha. marriage ruins everything . stay together when you dont have to and its great . truth be told we just like to have cake and eat cake everyday . so that wedding cake we love it .

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  5. Another point: Nigerian men do operate on a level way beyond comprehension. Every thing is done for convenience from Marriage to children to affairs. This is all unfortunately very narcissistic but the women allow this crap simply because of desperation. Their are a handful of good men and out of them fewer that are successful and practically none are as good looking as me (And I look like crap compared to the average foreign man). So how hard can it be for some fat slob of a guy to convince a beautiful woman under the illusion of a fairy tale marriage to get marry when her options are that limited?

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  6. Desperation or biology ? its all about reproduction and producing offspring , and behaving like cave pple. The male who lookls like he can nuture and protect the female and her kids will get the good looking chick. This happy family will only last for 7 years , its been said. when the little ones have survived and grown. the guy starts to wonder and the chick has reached her expiry date. .. and so the cookie crumbles . .. the chick aint neva going to go for the guy that cant provide , nuture or protect her kids. thats life .. its just biology disguised as love .. by the time the reality of raising kids over 7 years hits, love is all dead ... marriage should be banished at best .. a renewable contract .

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  7. i havent been proposed to recently and whats wrong with marriage. its essential for social development , it is what builds society . i have to say that i love being married and not all men are dirty rotten what ? .. scoundrells. only some . men are human too and feel what women feel, dont they .? they also love and want to be loved. but perhaps the prolem is this issue of one man one wife, maybe we should revert back to many wives. This might be the best solution because the way i see this thing , stds are going to be on the increase and particularly hiv, then waht.

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  8. Ha ha... I hate to burst your bubble but first the biology of reproducing is about sex not marriage. Marriage is a human construct used to to dominate and control. Second the so-called 7 year itch is a Hollywood myth. Do you really see a Nigerian man waiting that long before misbehaving? Don't think so. More like one month. For the next comment please trust me when I say this, any guy that feels what a woman feels, has a boyfriend.

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