Have any men used this term on you in a bid to get out of something they have done, or, to try and explain why they should really be in the looney bin? ‘I am damaged goods…’
I honestly think it is quite a funny term – I have this image in my head of some guy in pieces in a cardboard box just going round and round on a conveyor belt at the airport cos no one wants to claim the box!
Ok, on a serious note if someone tells you he is damaged goods then best run a mile. That is a bad boy pretending to be good, telling you he is bad! It is just an excuse to behave badly.
However…. if you are over 35 and single, actually, even if you are married, you have probably had your fair share of hurt. It is practically impossible in the type of world we live in for anyone to have just had perfect, loving relationships all their lives. So there are lots of damaged goods out there – most of the time being damaged by those claiming to be damaged goods!
Recently a friend said anyone over 40 who is unmarried is defective! I thought ‘ouch!’ But I understood what she meant beneath the severity of it all. I don’t completely agree with her because I believe that circumstances such as where one lives, what one does etc and most importantly, what God has in store for you, come in to play.
So if we are all slightly defective – agreed, some more than others, why can’t we go and be defective together? Why are defective people looking for perfect people, knowing fully well they also have issues!
Isn’t it better to be amongst your fellow defectees than to look for the perfect goods? Why the ‘long throat?’ Or do we not know that we all have issues? What makes it ok for someone who you gave a chance knowing they were one foot in the psych ward to turn around and point out ALL your faults and then leave you!
When we go to Marshalls, TJ Maxx or Ross’s Dress for Less (go on, you know you love it) and we find a Donna Karan dress at 70% off the original price, it has a little tear at the bottom but apart from that it looks just fine. Don’t we buy it?
Ok so what am I really saying here? Just playing devils advocate ….
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I wont stand anyone referring to me or anyone else as a "damaged good" what arrant nonsense and lack of respect.
ReplyDeleteOver 40 women or close to 40 women that are single should learn to love themselves and thier lives. Is it by force to be married.
There are lot of married women out there that wished they never had
Oh dear! You won't stand it? But I AM damaged goods. really I AM!:( Seriously that statement is more of an excuse for any future bad behavior. Men usually say it before they behave badly and not after. (After sounds too weak and its better to beg). It is also an excuse said before (or after) that rarely works in my experience. Most girls tell me to un-damage myself first or they WILL damage me. So I decided to modify it by saying in a half sobbing voice with a hand on my heart that "I maybe damaged but when I am with you, you make me a better person." Naturally when I am not with her I can be a dirty old sod. Heh Heh Heh!!
ReplyDeleteOne more thing.. While men like claiming to be 'damaged goods', why do women use the excuse that they have 'mood swings'?
ReplyDeleteIts the same darn lame excuse painted with a different brush.
lol. shadow you are not ok at all and you write like someone I no.
ReplyDeleteHey Stand Tall, its not about age but experience! Neither is it about whether you are married or not. Over time the damage is caused by relationships and we all suffer for it. Also we take baggage from one relationship to the other - sometimes not even realising it!
ReplyDeleteOmo Oba, ki lo de? Na waaaaa ohhh.
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Truth leave Stand Tall alone joh!Women over 40 should love each other...physically.. (and record the experience with a camcorder). No need to marry.. Its true that we take (some may say) 'portmanteaus', from one relationship to the other without realizing it. That happens when we don't learn from the past experience but prefer to let the lousy past hang over us like the proverbial albatross. Bad things happen. We learn from it and move on all the wiser, but not damaged.
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